I like to maintain a full and focused schedule at work, so when I do get home I rarely work. I dive right into motherhood in the evening and try to maintain that spirit throughout the weekend with Anaïs. I try to keep it separate and enjoy our family moments. The combination of work and motherhood is so gratifying that each gives strength unconsciously even if I’m focusing on the opposite. I feel better for having those two separate parts of my life. -Maryam Nassir Zadeh for THE GLOW.
This topic of work / motherhood balance occupies my thoughts more and more as my due date quickly approaches (only 2 more weeks!) As someone who loves her daily routine, I get simultaneously excited and scared as I think about how drastically my schedule is about to change. I think I’m about to learn the meaning of flexibility on an entirely new level since I know that life with a newborn – and a growing child – is rarely predictable and not something to be “controlled.” My hope is that I’ll grow into a more patient person in the process, not trying to rush through project A to get to project B (like I often do now), but instead allowing myself to slow down, enjoy the process and give my very best to what’s at hand – whether it’s styling a photo shoot for work, or taking time to watch my baby playing.
I’ve been reading a lot of advice from other mamas about how they maintain the balance of continuing to grow professionally, while also being the type of mom they want to be. The quote above is from a particularly inspiring interview on The Glow with Maryam Nassir Zadeh – I love how she talks about “diving into motherhood” when she’s not working, becoming fully present in the beauty of life with her family while not sacrificing her work in the process. I also really like this piece by Joy, in which she explores the idea that: “balance” isn’t the right word to use because balance implies that it all works out perfectly somehow. Rather, as mentioned in this quote, it really is about the juggle…how can we make it work within our own situations. It’s not always pretty or perfect, but in the end it works.
I know there’ll be a learning curve in the early days as our little family discovers a whole new rhythm that’s unique to us – and I’m actually really excited to see what that ends up looking like. I’d love to hear any advice on this topic that you guys have learned from experience, or even words of wisdom that have been shared with you – so feel free to weigh in with comments!
*image: The Glow