Happy Friday! Hope some of y’all are taking off and starting the weekend early…I have a lot to finish up before that happens, but here’s hoping! Do you guys mind if I end the week with a little reflection on a topic that I’ve been thinking a lot about lately? I’d just really like to get your thoughts and advice, especially from any of you who have already been there, done that. Now that I’m past the halfway mark in my pregnancy, thoughts are turning more towards life after delivery, and I’m wondering: How do you prioritize the relationship with your partner after baby? I know that things will inevitably change with this new season of life, and I totally welcome that, but it’s important to me that Adam and I grow closer through this shared experience instead of allowing sleepless nights and stressful moments to dampen the soul-mate connection that we share right now.
My friend Natasha wrote about this report exploring what happens when “Baby Makes Three,” taking a cold, hard look at the couples who don’t experience parenthood as an obstacle to marital happiness. So what’s their secret? The study identifies ten aspects of contemporary relationships (like generosity, shared housework and sexual satisfaction) that boost these couples’ odds of successfully combining marriage and parenthood. Interesting.
There’s no doubt that parenthood will be a transformative event for both of us. But how can we celebrate our new bundle of joy in a way that, rather than sacrificing what we have as a couple, enhances it? Instead of the “decline in global happiness and marital satisfaction” that, the report states, is experienced by the majority of couples. I’m pretty sure that spending quality time together – without baby – is a key factor. And I can imagine that when lack of sleep and new housework and child-rearing routines arrive, sharing the responsibility and working as a team is crucial. But what else? I’d love to hear thoughts and experiences from all of you…anything y’all have done that has helped you prioritize your relationship with your partner and make it even better after baby?
*image: Robyn Thompson