Camille Styles

How to Be an A-Lister

May 3rd, 2009


We talk a lot on Style Notes about how to be a fantastic hostess, but what about some guidance on being a great guest?  Help is on the way with our top five tips on being the guest who gets invited back.

1. Répondez, s’il vous plaît!

78385557Being a gracious guest starts when you receive an invitation, and a prompt reply is a must.  Event planning gurus Lara Shriftman & Elizabeth Harrison advise always responding within two days of receiving an invite, and remember: “Yes” means yes, so honor your commitment.  For more on this subject, see the “Rules of Responding” post.

2. Unfashionably Late

We’re all running behind schedule once in a while, but don’t leave your host waiting.  If you’re going to be more than 20 minutes late, give him a phone call so he can plan accordingly.

3. Get Glam


Dress codes can be tough to decipher, but I always recommend erring on the side of dressing a little too “up” than “down.”  Not only does it show your hostess you’re excited about her soiree, when you look great you’re guaranteed to feel more like the belle of the ball.  It’s always a safe bet to keep it simple and elegant, then add some statement pieces like bold chandelier earrings and a fabulous clutch.

4. Calling All Social Butterflies


As a hostess, I love having guests who enter the room and put others at ease with their warm greeting and ability to hold a conversation with old friends and new acquaintances.  It’s a guest’s role to meet & mingle, so grab a cocktail, flash a big smile at the stranger next to you, and have fun!

5. The Morning After


A gracious guest always sends a thank-you note.  I prefer sending a handwritten note on personalized cards, but if facebook or email is more your style, send one the day after a party.  Make it personal by recalling a funny story or favorite hors d’oeuvres from the party, and include a photo taken at the event to make it (and you) completely unforgettable.

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1 Comment under :: How to Be an A-Lister
  1. Jenive says:

    A dinner invitation, once accepted, is a sacred obligation. If you die before the dinner takes place, your executor must attend.
    ~Ward McAllister


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