This week I’ve been giving some thought to the pressure we (I) sometimes put on ourselves to do it all. As I navigate these early days of motherhood and career, it can be hard not to feel like I’m constantly letting someone down, be it my team because I can’t be at every meeting and photo shoot, or Phoebe because I had to leave her with her grandmothers for an extra hour one day, or my friends because, well, I haven’t seen a whole lot of them these last few weeks. After talking with some of my other mom friends, I learned that this is an across-the-board struggle…so I’m starting to realize that sometimes, the only solution is to learn how to give ourselves a break. The first way I’m practicing putting it into action? Phoebe’s Halloween costume. I’ve been brainstorming the perfect original costume and how to craft it for weeks, and suddenly realized that the entire thing was just stressing me out. And then I thought – What would happen if my 11 week old doesn’t dress up at all for Halloween this year?  Absolutely nothing, I realized. And if I’m not in the mood to get super crafty, I shouldn’t force it and should instead use that time to play and have fun together! Let’s face it, she’ll be more happy in a onesie, anyway…

I’d love to know: do you guys deal with feelings of guilt over not being able to give 100% to everything all the time? How have you dealt with it? Leave a comment to discuss, and hope you enjoy my favorite links from the week!

Dying to make this perfectly autumnal apple cake.

Loving the new 5 under $25 series over on Jen’s blog.

Could there be  any prettier envelopes?

Wouldn’t this sweet potato & feta crostini make the perfect T-day appetizer?

I’m on the hunt for pretty office accessories, and this vintage-style stapler fits the bill.

This dress left me speechless.

I’d love to toast the weekend with this cocktail.

And if I’m feeling virtuous, I’ll whip up this healthy dish featuring some of my fave flavors.

*and a few fun things you may have missed!

Entertaining with House of Brinson (and a couple of to-die-for dinner party recipes.)

The most stunning holiday dessert.

10 best Thanksgiving centerpieces.

*image: call me cupcake


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Comments (17)
  1. 1
    Ashley October 27, 2012 at 8:53 am

    Cheers to that! Have a wonderful weekend.

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    Phyllis October 27, 2012 at 3:07 pm

    Sweet Camille. Been reading your blog for some time now and while we don’t “know” each other, I can tell that you are a very kind person AND a loving mom, and I want to offer you some encouragement. I am down the road in the “mom job”, having raised two (wonderful, if I might say!) sons (who are both attending college near you on the 40 acres!) : ) Juggling it “all” IS such a challenge, and most of us feel that stress of doing everything right (perfectly?), and yet feeling like we are letting someone down. That’s because while we tend to be understanding of others, we are the hardest on ourselves. You are totally on the right track – seeing what is working, what is not, and actually making adjustments! That’s the key, I believe. Making adjustments – sometimes daily (hourly?!) The pressures, stresses and time issues will always be there, even morphing at times into new issues, but (for me) the key has been to love our “little” guys to pieces, do the best I can every day with what was on my plate, and most of all, try to be a littler kinder to myself knowing I tried! There’s a catch phrase I have come to love: Let. It. Go. What’s most important will always rise to the top, and the rest: Let It Go!!
    : ) Simple, but powerful.

    I think being a DARLING baby, wearing a cozy onesie, is a great costume!! Hmmm…Phoebe and her mom might be onto something – cozy pajamas would make a great costume for anyone!!

    All the best to you!

    • Camille Styles October 27, 2012 at 9:04 pm

      Oooooh, thank you Phyllis! This was the sweetest, most encouraging comment, and it was so amazing of you to take the time to share your journey and what you’ve learned. Let. It. Go. is going to be my mantra this week… Scratch that, my new mantra, period! Comments like this mean the WORLD to me!

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    [email protected] October 27, 2012 at 4:28 pm

    Oh that pie looks delish and so up for that cocktail 😉 loving the envelopes & thanks so much for the linkback, have a great weekend xxx

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    Amy October 27, 2012 at 8:22 pm

    Bravo! I’m proud of you for letting go of the Halloween costume. If something is causing you angst it’s just not worth it. If it makes you feel any better, I didn’t dress up my son for his first Halloween either and he was 8 months old. Being a mom is a continual learning process but with every year (and child) you learn more and blossom as a mother. You’re doing a great job already just by loving little Phoebe each and every day.

    • Camille Styles October 27, 2012 at 9:05 pm

      Thanks Amy, that means a lot to hear. It’s great to learn about other moms’ experiences on this stuff… puts it all in perspective!! xoxo

  5. 5
    Kate October 27, 2012 at 8:29 pm

    I think of all your posts this may be my favorite. I’m very proud of you, darling girl!

  6. 6
    chelsea watlington October 27, 2012 at 9:14 pm

    get one of those cute animal hats from baby gap, put her in a cute onesie and call it a day. adorable “0-3 month” costumes don’t exist for babies this small. I’ve looked (as I have a 10 week old girl) and that’s my conclusion…and who has time to actually make one with an infant between pumping, naps, and a job! you’re doing great and a photo with you, her, and a pumpkin will be all you need for a great memory.

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    erin (@erincg) October 27, 2012 at 9:25 pm

    this is a great post, camille. i love the honesty, and it will make other women feel encouraged since sometimes, i’m sure. i think women do need to be honest about the struggle of doing it ALL because it’s fricking hard and the honesty can only help those that feel like they are “dropping the ball”. the only judgement is coming from ourselves, at the end of the day. so, kudos and i’m sure the babe will be just the cutest costume or not. x

    • erin (@erincg) October 27, 2012 at 9:27 pm

      wow, nice typo in the middle of my comment… maybe i was trying to multitask at the time (another pitfall of “doing it all”) haha!

  8. 8
    Kathryn October 28, 2012 at 11:33 am

    That’s how I feel about making a Halloween costume for myself! 🙂

    Thanks for the link love Camille!

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    Erin (@LawStudentsWife) October 28, 2012 at 1:05 pm

    Camille, I don’t even have a little one, and I still manage to feel stretched too thin! Thanks for reminding us all to step back and take a break. It feels good 🙂

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    Jeanine Donofrio October 28, 2012 at 6:30 pm

    I’ve never seen a new mom have it more “together” than you do… you so deserve break without feeling guilty!

    and thanks for the link love this week!

  11. 11 October 29, 2012 at 11:33 am

    I find being a self-employed mom has always been a balancing act for me. Some days I feel like I have the balance just right and other days I feel guilty that my children or my work isn’t getting enough attention. I think the best thing to do is check-in just like you are doing and find out what is causing more angst and try to let it go or simplify it. We can’t do it all 🙂 I know you’d like to! I sure like to try but the end result is a tired mom.

    As an idea for Phoebe on halloween, Etsy has the cutest little hats. I found the most precious owl hat there for Olivia and she not only wore it for Halloween last year when she was 8 months but she wore it through the winter. Simple and cute 🙂

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    {this is glamorous} October 29, 2012 at 12:11 pm

    thank you for the link-love, camille — hope you’re well x