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Why You Should Stop Waiting

January 15th, 2016

If 2014 was the year I changed my life, 2015 was definitely the year I learned to change my perspective (and quit apologizing along the way). Reflecting on that had me wondering, “What will 2016 bring?”

A confession before I dive further: I’m not big on New Year’s Resolutions. The advertisements and overall messages shouting about a “New Year, New Body, New You” come across as inauthentic and cheap. I’m all for moving towards a healthier lifestyle, but would love for you to get there when you are ready. And for you, that might not be on January 1st.

list out your new year's resolutions

I do however think January is a really good time to hit refresh and take inventory on the past year. I use this time to set my overall intentions and dream big. I’ll always have really specific and detailed goals related to my career, fitness and well-being, but these particular intentions are more of personal mantra for the year.

Towards the end of 2015, several moments led me to my focus for 2016. I had wanted to declutter and organize my space for quite some time. Several friends recommended Marie Kondo’s best-selling book and raved about her process of getting rid of things that no longer serve a purpose. That notion inspired me to take inventory on my things before I fully dived into her KonMari method. In this process, I came across a host of items I purchased over the years and essentially forgot about. A beautiful Karl Lagerfeld candle I acquired in Paris and waited for a special time to light. A dress I bought for summer date nights (that never happened). And to many friend’s chagrin, the most beautiful red wine from Italy that has been waiting to be uncorked for a big celebration.

gorgeous

Around that same time, the attacks in Paris occurred. I happened to be back in my hometown in Nebraska with my entire family. Not only was it the first time we were together in a year, but it was the first time we were together in the same room watching an international tragedy unfold and able to talk about it immediately. It was a sad day and one where I truly realized how much I take each moment I have with them for granted.

So, I arrived to this intention for 2016: Wait For Nothing. 

For me, this means:

1. Everyday can be a special occasion. Some of the best memories I’ve had were spontaneous, unplanned and in my workout clothes. That beautiful bottle of red wine didn’t come with instructions, “Consume only in the presence of sequin-clad friends when you have something to celebrate.” So, I’ve been practicing using nice things immediately and not thinking about the what-if moments as much. And if date night happens soon, I know the directions to the nearest Nordstrom quite well.

2. Say it now. Admittedly, I have a hard time asking for help and conversely, I hate turning anyone down, even when I don’t have the bandwidth to help. I’m also the worst kind of just-checking-in-to-see-how-you’re-doing friend and daughter in my busiest of times. However, in a matter of weeks this has shifted. When a friend crossed my mind, I texted them. When I felt strongly about something at work, I said it immediately. And when I wanted to help a friend but was on a tight deadline, I was honest. Asking for what you want and saying what you mean right now sure saves you time in the long run.

3. Don’t just think about it. Do it. I’ve caught myself day-dreaming about buying a cyclocross bike, driving to Marfa, TX for the weekend, creating a podcast and even taking on a weekend apprenticeship with a donut-maker (seriously). But inevitably, I always let something get in the way — mostly time, sometimes my own nerves. But if I’m going to tell to my friends, “There’s no such thing as the ‘perfect time’ to start — NOW is the perfect time,” then I have to practice what I preach. Guess who is finally giving yoga a real go next week?

downward dog

Much like I couldn’t predict how 2014 or 2015 would play out, I have no idea what 2016 will bring. But,  results from “waiting for nothing” over the past two weeks lead me to believe I’ll be happy once December 31 rolls around.

image sources: New Year’s Resolution board | black dress | yoga pose

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30 Comments under :: Why You Should Stop Waiting
  1. Karin says:

    Great advice and thought provoking…like the quick trip to Nordstrom idea and drinking that bottle of wine…why save it?

  2. So inspired by this, Kelly… making every day worthy of celebrating and using our best things now are definitely two principles I believe in, but sometimes it’s hard to play them out in everyday life. This post has encouraged me to take a look at the areas of my life where I need to “dive in” a little more. Starting right now! xoxo

  3. Mary Wilding says:

    Good insight. I’ve had to make a concerted effort on what “I Can” do and not beat myself up for what I can’t or won’t do. As women, we also need to be one another’s best cheerleaders! Thanks, Mary Wilding http://www.mytributejournal.com

  4. Kelly, thank you so much for your inspiration! While I don’t love the “New Year, new you” mantra that has been shoved down our throughts by advertisers, I personally like the opportunity to take a step back, evaluate things, and see where you want your life to be headed. I never make New Year’s Resolutions on 1/1 because quite frankly I am still typically too busy from the holidays. But I love that January tends to be a quieter, more reflective time – perfect for thinking about where you want to be in life. I plan on sitting down this weekend and thinking about where I want my life to go this next year. And the idea of living in the moment and “why wait?” really resonates with me. Thank you!

    Molly {Dreams in HD}
    http://www.dreamsinhd.blogspot.com

  5. This is such an inspirational post, Kelly! I love these intentions. I think remembering everyday is a special occasion is a great way to live your life. Wishing you all good things for 2016!

    http://www.livinginsteil.com

  6. Marina says:

    I’ve been thinking lately about the power of words to lift up or or tear down, and every day is a new opportunity to choose them wisely and with just a little bit more consideration. I especially like your reminder to let people know we are thinking about them.
    So simple really, but the effort can turn a person’s day around!

  7. Heather says:

    True words to start a new year! I have big changes going on – scary yet exciting moves. I will keep your “wait for nothing” mantra in my head to give me courage. xo

  8. Maria Fernanda says:

    absolutely love this! Starting yoga next week, as well. The time is now!

  9. Words to live by! Amazing how three simple words , linked together, have the potential to make such a profound impact. I start this journey today. Thank you for an inspiring post. Sandra

  10. Caryl Lyons says:

    Great post! I too have so many nice things that are just sitting there waiting to be drank, worn, or used. I don’t know why we wait for something great when we should make everyday great. Definitely going to heed this advise and not wait for anything.

    • Kelly Krause says:

      It’s amazing how much more sunny and bright my days have become since “not waiting.” I hope the same goes for you!

  11. Laura says:

    Beautiful 🙂 I especially love the idea of making every day a special occasion. As soon as I get over this flu, I too plan to start yoga. Wanted to start several weeks ago. Aaaaand kickboxing !! We’ll see how it goes.

  12. kristine says:

    Lovely reading to be had on this quiet sunday I’m having! #3 is something I’m still trying to get a good hold on, too. Practicing to be more of a “do-er” than a “thinker” is a challenge. Anyhoot, Wishing you the best with your yoga journey. I found more than what I was looking for when i started yoga. Hopeful that you will too!

  13. Libbynan says:

    I am sixty-eight years old and in the past week I have read obituaries for at least a dozen people who were younger than me….. anywhere from two to twenty-three years younger. This breaks my heart. From my own experience I wonder how many things they didn’t do or try because they were waiting for a particular set of circumstances. Guess what? You will NEVER have the perfect time to do or go or try or whatever! This post just clarified my thoughts for this week. No more waiting…. from now on I just go for it. And I hope all of you will too. This exact moment is the only one you are guaranteed.

  14. Jennifer Rose Smith says:

    This is so inspiring, Kelly. I love your message. I hope that my 2016 will be brave and full of go-for-it moments.

    • Kelly Krause says:

      It’s already headed in that direction for you, Jen : ) Thanks for the kind words both here and over email this morning. I appreciated our exchange very much!

  15. Renee Coursey says:

    Just a thought: The right word can be a wing or a brick. Choose carefully before speaking.

  16. Please, please go behind-the-scenes with a donut maker and tell all the magic details.

  17. Keshia White says:

    Number 3 really resonates with me. So often we come up with all these great ideas and never execute them. I’ve gotten much better at overcoming that this year. I’m so glad I did because my progress has been significantly improved, too!

    Keshia
    http://www.queenlifeblog.com

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