Lately, the universe has been begging me to slow down, take a pause, and only focus on the essentials. Maybe you can relate. Have you ever opened up your calendar, or thought more about an event you RSVPed to, only to have an overwhelming amount of regret? Or perhaps you’ve committed to a project that you once loved, but now there’s no passion or time? Both scenarios happened to me last month and I spent a lot of time thinking, “How did I get here, and why am I not excited?” Which was then immediately followed up with a wave of guilt when I questioned whether or not I could back out. Not to mention, I was confused. Just weeks ago, all of this sounded fun.
Then it hit me. I got to this point because I wasn’t clear about what I really wanted, and in turn, I wasn’t saying yes to the right things. Instead of doing a daily check in and taking an honest inventory of my time and energy, I said yes to almost everything that came my way. Within moments of this realization, I saw this picture from Ruby of The Numinous, and instantly felt supported. “To protect my energy, it is okay to change my mind.” This was the phrase I needed to hear to immediately drop the guilt.
Now, I’m not telling you to say no to everything that comes your way, and try to purposely keep things off your calendar. The goal isn’t to say no. I’m not even capable of that. Instead, I’m encouraging you to take a moment to slow down — pause — and think about what you’re committing to before you do it. Here’s what helped me get clear on what I want, and in turn, start saying yes to the right things.