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With the surgence of modern ettiquette at the forefront of many gatherings, you may be wondering—are hostess gifts outdated? I’ve hosted many a gathering and it’s never been my expectation that guests arrive with a gift. But with gathering season upon us and the Paperless Posts rolling in, I’ve found myself pondering hostess gift ideas. Is showing up empty handed expected… or is there still value in arriving with some sort of token of appreciation?
Etiquette expert Heather Wiese has thoughts. Her tips on dinner party ettiquette as a whole always point to gratitude—especially where gifts are concerned. “Etiquette is a path to compassion, consideration, and even empathy when used as intended,” she explains. So, about hostess gifts—are they still necessary? “If you’re helping with the dinner itself, there might be something small in addition you can bring that says, ‘I appreciate you hosting.’ However, when you’re arriving as a carefree guest being served, a modest but thoughtful gift is a big YES.”
for the chef
Show up with an heirloom-quality bowl that’s made from solid beechwood and perfect for sharing good food with great friends.
When you’re close to the host, it’s easier to think about what they’d appreciate. But what about when you’re invited to your partner’s great aunt’s house for family dinner—and you have no idea what she’d like? Oh! And what about an impromptu gathering? “Last week, I was invited to the home of someone I don’t know well,” Heather shares. “I had no idea of their style. I grabbed a gift tag from my stash and a fresh orchid on the way to the dinner party. Last night I headed out last-minute to a friend’s house for an impromptu dinner. I grabbed a bottle of wine from my stash so I didn’t show up empty-handed.”
In short, it’s always nice to bring a gift when you’re invited somewhere. Why not err on the side of generosity? When it comes to choosing gifts, Wiese has two simple rules: first, consider the host, and second, contribute something material. Take it the extra mile by bringing a gift that doesn’t require the host or hostess to stop what they’re doing and take care of the gift. Flowers are great, but bring them in a vessel—or opt for a potted plant or herbs instead.
Read on for an essential collection of thoughtful hostess gift ideas, perfect for gatherings of all kinds, anytime of year.
for everyone
Infused with the soothing scent of bergamot and cedarwood, the Daybreak Candle offers a serene start to the day. It will serve as a beautiful gift for any host.
for the coffee & tea lover
This ceramic mug, with its earthy glaze and hand-thrown craftsmanship, transforms everyday rituals into moments of warmth and comfort—an ideal host or hostess gift.
for the cook
If your host has any bend toward cooking, a good bottle of olive oil will be well received. Perfect for marinades or as a dip for warm, crusty bread, Le Marké is an easy choice.
for the acquaintance
While wine is a go-to hostess gift idea, when you’re not acquainted with the host or hostess, a non-alcoholic beverage is a safer gift. Ghia’s Lime & Salt spritz is a refreshing and thoughtful choice.
for the sweet tooth
Serve up a treat. Fancypants makes the best crispy cookies in the game and this box is full of crowd favorites: Mint Chocolate, Chocolate Chip, Gingersnap cookies, plus GFDF hot cocoa made from European chocolate.
For the homebody
This viral blanket is a welcome addition to any couch or nook. For those who love to cuddle up with a book or a loved one, the faux fur luxurious throw is a perfect gift at a great price.
For the entertainer
This serving board’s versatile design is perfect for appetizers or their favorite cheeses, adding a touch of warmth and character to any home.
for the writer
There’s nothing more thoughtful than a personalized gift. You can find something for everyone among Papier’s numerous notebook options—from journals to recipe books.
For everyone
Here’s a gift the hostess can use right away—perfect for the night’s leftovers. These cute sustainable food wraps come in sets of three, with three different sizes.
