They say that comparison is the thief of all joy, and there’s no question that the hours we spend measuring our own life against that of others is time that would be better spent being grateful for what we do have, or even working to achieve the goals we’ve set for ourselves. Of course, some level of comparison is inevitable, especially in this age of social media when we can observe the dream vacations, seemingly perfect relationships and otherwise fabulous lives of others with a quick scroll through our Instagram feed. I’m as guilty as anyone — no matter how much I want to always be happy when great things happen to others, it can be tough not to weigh our lives against theirs. So what can we do to counteract the comparison game? I think it helps to start each day with gratitude, choose to be present in our everyday lives, limit our social media consumption if necessary, and remind ourselves that we are enough just as we are. Click through the slides for a few of my favorite quotes that help me do each of these, and say goodbye to negative comparisons for good.

featured image via the coveteur
graphics by jennifer rose smith

 


Have more than you show, and speak less than you know. – William Shakespeare

The only person you should try to be better than is who you were yesterday. – unknown

Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself. – Coco Chanel

A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it, it just blooms. – Zen Shin

 


“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud.”
– Shannon L. Alder

“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” Eleanor Roosevelt

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt

“Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions … do your thing, and don’t care if they like it.” Tina Fey

9 comments
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    jeansandatea | June 6, 2016 at 11:56 am

    What a lovely way to begin a week! Thanks for the positivity.
    XOXO, Amy @ http://www.jeansandatea.com

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    Regine Karpel | June 6, 2016 at 1:56 pm

    Love.
    http://www.rsrue.blogspot.com

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    A | June 6, 2016 at 3:35 pm

    🙂

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    Kelly | June 7, 2016 at 4:40 am

    Love those Zen quotes! I am thinking about school, life… where we were taught to compete with others.

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    Inma | June 7, 2016 at 5:33 am

    I have always loved that quote by Tina Fey and had the second part (do your thing and don’t care if they like it) written on the blackboard in my kitchen for a long time.

    Inma x
    sunshineandglow.blogspot.com

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    Diana | June 11, 2016 at 4:09 pm

    Beautiful quotes! 🙂

    Diana | http://www.thechicdiary.com

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    beeljo | June 11, 2016 at 10:15 pm

    I think the whole concept of “be yourself” or “do what you like”, while generally positive, can also take on a negative aspect as well in the wrong context. For example, is a murderer being himself or herself when he or she murders? On the contrary, I believe one should strive to copy positive traits that he or she sees in others. The real question shouldn’t be “am I doing better than someone else?” but “am I doing the best that I can?”.

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    • Jennifer Rose Smith | December 15, 2016 at 4:51 pm

      Beeljo you bring up a fascinating point. This reminds me of one of the final scenes in Whit Stillman’s “The Last Days of Disco”. If you like this type of conversation, definitely check out that film.

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    Malika | October 24, 2017 at 5:37 am

    I think if you are self aware about your self then you will never compare your self with others. Self awared people knows the the positive points and negative points in themselves. I have just tries PRISM Brain Map’s self awareness tool. Due to this I got to know all of Mine strong points.

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