If how to make new friends sounds like a pre-school topic, it’s probably because it’s a skill that isn’t typically taught in our society past age 5. That’s a shame, because many people eventually find themselves stranded in adulthood without the built-in network of friends that school always provided them. Whether you’ve just moved to a new town, had a baby, or would simply like to expand your network of friends, check out these seven ideas that will help connect you to the friends you want to meet fast!

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1. Do What You Love

This is the simplest, strongest advice I can give for making new friends. When you’re doing what you love (whether it’s working for a company you love, seeing a band you love, working on a project you love) friends just HAPPEN to you. A good sign that you’re on the right career path is that you actually want to hang out with your coworkers outside of work. If you can’t get that job you love right now, don’t fret. You can always find other ways to do what you love! Try volunteering for a cause you care about, going to see live music, or start a project of your own.

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2. Be a Joiner

Look for clubs and organizations in your community that are focused on topics that interest you. Even if you have to pay some sort of membership fee, it can be money well spent! It could be a book club, a country club, an indie movie watching club, a club for people who own chihuahuas. Whatever. Just join. You can always quit if it’s not your thing! MeetUp is a good site to search for interest groups in your area.

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3. Talk About It

If you want to make new friends, tell people about it. You don’t have to send out an official email or post about it on social media, just casually weave it into real conversation here and there with the people you know. They’ll remember and just might invite you to a dinner or party with other guests they think you’d enjoy meeting.

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4. Throw a “Plus One” Party

This technique works best if you already have 6 – 8 friends you can invite over for drinks. Tell each of them to bring a guest or two. Voila. You now have 10 more potential friends to talk to!

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5. Utilize Social Media

Did you know that some dating apps have settings for people who are just looking for friends? It’s a pretty neat trick for meeting other people in your area who are obviously open to new friendships. In addition to that, Instagram can be a good tool for connecting with people in your area. Explore hashtags that are specific to your town and find some interesting new people to follow. You’ll be able to see what types of events they’re attending, and possibly even meet up IRL.

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6. Take a Class

This kind of goes back to “do what you love”, but taking a class in something that interests you is a great way to make new friends. Remember how easy it was to have friends in school? You can have that dynamic again just by signing up for a regular class. I made a lifelong friend from a design class I took in my late twenties. Oh, and we’re also both working art directors now with a big network of creative friends. Pretty cool how that worked!

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7. Date as Much As You Can (and Even Better: Date Someone Who’s Super Social)

This is an advanced technique, and obviously only applies to you if you’re single. Dating in general can be a good way to meet new friends, and especially good if you can date someone who’s really gregarious and social. It’s always nice to have a connecting person to introduce you to new friends. You’ll end up meeting a slew of new people, and who knows, you might even fall in love while you’re at it!

11 comments
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    Olga | January 17, 2018 at 8:37 am

    I loved the article as it’s something I was always interested in, but wasn’t a topic a lot of people talked about! I have found that for me joining groups and group activities that interest me has been the best way to meet new people!

    Love,
    Olga from Myme

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    Ray | January 17, 2018 at 9:55 am

    These are all great tips. Will be needing them soon.

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    FashionNotFear | January 17, 2018 at 10:07 am

    Nice tips! I always wondered the best approach to this when you have outgrown your childhood friends.

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    Zayn | January 19, 2018 at 7:04 am

    These are all super helpful tips.

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    Zayn | January 19, 2018 at 7:06 am

    These are all super helpful tips

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    Makayla | January 19, 2018 at 1:40 pm

    This post is such great advice. Me and my girlfriends who are all at the tender age of *cough 35* talk about this. It can be very hard and these tips are superb. We discuss them all and truly are excellent genuine ways to meet people. In the end you never know where and who you’ll meet, but I think the one thing to do before any of these, especially for girls, is to BE OPEN! Open to people, possibility and the future. If your pleasant, happy and warm, people take notice, have a genuine interest in getting to know who you are and that makes for lasting relationships. Too often we use social media as a barrier and excuse as to why we don’t ever meet people but rarely are people getting out of the house to organically meet new people!

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    girlingamba | January 19, 2018 at 5:54 pm

    I wrote about knowing who your friends are a few months ago and I talked about how we’re so scared to lose friends sometimes as adults. I definitely think this article shows that making friends as an adult isn’t as difficult as it may seem. I especially love the plus one party tip! Will definitely be bookmarking this for the future!

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    Gemma | January 20, 2018 at 3:08 am

    This is incredibly helpful and something, as an adult, you don’t really think about until your situation changes. I moved countries a couple of years ago and am still struggling to make those connections. I’m totally going to try expanding my reach a little by implementing some of these tips! Wish me luck!

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    Gail Hapert | January 20, 2018 at 2:31 pm

    Great tips! Especially do what you love.

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    Natalie | March 1, 2018 at 8:54 am

    Helpful post!

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    Silas Knight | July 24, 2018 at 2:37 pm

    I love the advice you have here for finding new friends. Doing the things I love is something I can do without a problem! Things like hiking and camping will probably give me some opportunities to meet people.

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