Camille Styles

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How to Say Yes to the Right Things

May 16th, 2017

Lately, the universe has been begging me to slow down, take a pause, and only focus on the essentials. Maybe you can relate. Have you ever opened up your calendar, or thought more about an event you RSVPed to, only to have an overwhelming amount of regret? Or perhaps you’ve committed to a project that you once loved, but now there’s no passion or time? Both scenarios happened to me last month and I spent a lot of time thinking, “How did I get here, and why am I not excited?” Which was then immediately followed up with a wave of guilt when I questioned whether or not I could back out. Not to mention, I was confused. Just weeks ago, all of this sounded fun.

Then it hit me. I got to this point because I wasn’t clear about what I really wanted, and in turn, I wasn’t saying yes to the right things. Instead of doing a daily check in and taking an honest inventory of my time and energy, I said yes to almost everything that came my way. Within moments of this realization, I saw this picture from Ruby of The Numinous, and instantly felt supported. “To protect my energy, it is okay to change my mind.” This was the phrase I needed to hear to immediately drop the guilt.

Now, I’m not telling you to say no to everything that comes your way, and try to purposely keep things off your calendar. The goal isn’t to say no. I’m not even capable of that. Instead, I’m encouraging you to take a moment to slow down — pause — and think about what you’re committing to before you do it. Here’s what helped me get clear on what I want, and in turn, start saying yes to the right things.

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  1. Great post to think on!

  2. Ted says:

    At last common sense prevails. Thank you!

  3. Keri Elaine says:

    I completely agree! It’s good to say yes, but you have to check in with yourself and make sure you activiley want to pursue these opportunities. Sometimes we can just say yes, because we want to please others and really we’re pretty run down.
    Keri Elaine

  4. Meems says:

    I was just writing down my goals for the next few months rethinking everything after realizing a passion of mine has run its course but it is time to set my sights on something else. I took a break to read the 8 Things of Note and read this post. Timing is everything.

  5. This article really spoke to me! Thank you for writing it. I have definitely been feeling overwhelmed lately and I think implementing some of these steps will bring some clarity.


  6. Amanda says:

    I soooo needed to read this! Thanks so much!

  7. Chaucee says:

    I think the hardest thing for me to do on this list and give myself time to respond. Thanks for the reminder to pause and think!

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