Camille Styles

How to Deal With a Jealous or Possessive Friend

August 13th, 2018

You may have finally gotten the big promotion at work, lost weight, booked flights for a dream vacation, or found out you were pregnant after trying to conceive with your significant other. Excited about your happy news, your first instinct is to share the joy with those you love most—your family and friends.  But what happens when their reactions are not at all what you expected? What if instead of being congratulatory and excited for you, they brush it off or downplay your achievement, leaving you hurt and confused? 

Instead of getting upset at the unexpected rain on your parade, it may be best to take a birds-eye view of your relationship with this person. Could their underwhelmed reaction be rooted in feelings of jealousy or competition? If so, you may be unknowingly caught up in a toxic friendship—the kind that has a negative effect on your mental well-being and happiness. Does your friend try to control you and your feelings? Do they become bitter and demand an explanation when you don’t text them back immediately? Or make you feel guilty when you don’t hang out with them every weekend? If any of these signs sound painfully familiar, it may be time to have a difficult but necessary chat about what exactly is going on.

Life’s too short for toxic friendships. Here’s how to deal with a jealous or possessive friend who consistently leaves you feeling disrespected, frustrated, or bad about yourself. 

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  1. Rena says:

    This is such a helpful post! Thanks for sharing your wisedom.
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena

  2. Kate says:

    What an amazingly helpful post! This was written with such sensitivity and compassion, while at the same time advocating setting boundaries when needed. Thank you for handling a difficult topic with care–and detailed information as guidance!

    • Katherine Fluor says:

      Thank you, Kate! So happy it was helpful to you. Makes my day to receive such positive feedback from readers like you!

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